Thursday, December 04, 2008

MIA/Sharing

Hello everyone. I am so sorry that I went MIA. Thankfully we are all well out here in the mountains. It has been an INCREDIBLE experience. I wish I could say it's been all good. The Lord brought us out here for a reason, and He is definitely accomplishing in us what we needed. Maybe not what we wanted, but what we needed. lol ;) Our characters are being put through the fire and refined. It has definitely drawn us closer together as a husband and wife, and more importantly it has drawn us closer together to Him. The Lord has shown us some areas in our lives that we needed to deal with. I have never felt so close to my beloved as I do now. I always thought we had an incredible marriage, to the point that I needed to check myself and make sure it wasn't a source of pride.
My beloved and I have been doing something every evening for the last couple of weeks. We haven't figured out a name for it yet, but for lack of a better phrase, it has been dubbed "talk time" Every evening once the children are in bed we cuddle up on the sofa and go through our entire day. We take turns going first. We literally share everything with each other. We go through our feelings when such and such happened, or our thoughts when this or that happened. There is to be no judging, just pure sharing from the heart. We share things that have happened in the past, as far back at 15 years ago, or as close as things that happened right before we left Florida. I think the no criticizing or judging part helps us to really dig down deep and share our innermost thoughts. We normally pray right before or right after. We just ask the Lord to bring to memory anything he wants us to share. I will say that this has helped me to see what areas of my beloved's life I need to pray for, and vice versa. I now know specific things he needs prayer for, as opposed to a general, "Lord, help him to be a good leader in the home," type things. I won't share my beloved's current "works in progress" but I will share mine. I don't think I know how to forgive properly. I forgive, but I don't know how to forget. ;0) I grew up in home that if you did something wrong, they wouldn't speak to you for weeks. There was no forgetting. The Lord is now definitely showing me and teaching me how to properly forgive. I wouldn't want to go through it with anyone else other than my beloved!!
Another thing that has kept me busy is that I took Britney to a new neurodevelopmentalist up here. So we had a new set of activities to work on and perfect.
I have a boat load of pictures to share. It's already dropping to the 30's and 20's up here, but it's definitely a different cold than when we lived in NY. Even in the 30's we go on 4 1/2 mile nature hikes/walks as a family.
Anyway, I better get off for now. My beloved is in Florida, and should be on his way to the airport as I type. We hope that that was his last trip to Florida, and we can finally put Florida behind us now.

15 comments:

Wilma said...

Hi Shereen,

I am so happy to see you're back and not missing in action any more. lol Our prayers have been with you all. John and I call our little time together "cozy time or swing time" where in the morning and in the evening we come together and just share what's in our hearts. I also call this type of communication with our children at bedtime "heart-to-heart talk time", where the children share what's on their heart. It's amazing how it helps us to bond as husband and wife, or parent-child. We too have been feeling the refiner's fire in our lives, within our characters! What's a good time to call you. I would love to catch up on some things with you and to hear the details of why and how you left for the mountains of Idaho. Remember, we were first planning to move to Idaho before Washington. We are waiting our turn once again! Give our love to the children and a big hug for you and Felipe. Love you all!

Ruth said...

Welcome back to the blogosphere, Shereen! While you were out, I took the bull by the horns and I'm trying to learn some 'crafty' skills. Hopefully, I'll be able to share something worthwhile in the new year. ;)

Ann@His Grace To Me said...

Shereen, it's so nice to hear from you! Your family has been in my prayers, especially that your move would be a spiritual blessing.

With 4 1/2 mile nature hikes, your nature studies can really take off! That sounds like a lots of good, healthy fun.

I first heard the term "talk time" from the Hohnbergers and it is a blessing, but is also so revealing and humbling. At this late date in earth's history, we need to open all of the avenues possible for the Lord to speak to us and refine our characters.

Do you have space for a garden come spring? Are you planning and prepping for one?

Looking forward to your pictures!

Ann

Nanci said...

Shereen,

First, let me say welcome back. I've missed you. I had been regualary checking in on you and wondering how you and your family have been doing. I am extremely anxious to see all your photos.

Second, I rejoice in the goodness of the Lord and what He is accomplishing in your life. It is amazing how God continues His work in making us one with our beloveds(even after years of marriage).

God bless,

Nanci @ Brambleberry Cottage

Elizabeth Joy said...

A big hug to you! So glad you have worked out such a special evening time to help you all with the adjustment. It sounds so precious! Wish we could figure out how to get together soon. So good to hear from you again.

Mom2fur said...

Well, first of all, welcome back! Nanci (Brambleberry Cottage) told me you'd returned. I'm glad things are settling for you guys, even if it does sound like you've had some tough times, too.
Having a talk each night is such a good idea. It must be so cozy and nice to cuddle up and just talk about your day.
I'm glad to say we never got the silent treatment as kids--I can't imagine how painful that would be. But there was a lot of anger and yelling. It really is hard to get over something like that...even after decades. Your own kids will grow up and look back at a strong and loving relationship between their mommy and daddy--there are few better gifts than that!
Can't wait to see pictures!

Tania said...

Hi shereen,Good to hear the update. I keep thinking and praying for your family.We do talk time too,except sometimes I find it hard to share my feelings. maybe it's a past thing .God bless you. our new blog is potca.blogspot.com. Tania

Erna said...

It was nice to read your update Shereen. It's true that forgiving from the heart can be much harder than forgiving from the head. Yet, when feelings arise, I try to remind myself that love keeps no record of wrongs when it comes to the things that seem harder to let go. Keep pressing into Him and drawing close to your beloved. :0)

Paula said...

So glad you are sharing and letting us know you are OK. I was beginning to wonder. You mentioned mountains, I was curious about what happened to FL. :) If you are in the CO area, give me an email. We might live close together!! :) Thanks for sharing about the talks. That is a great idea.

I too have had difficulty with total forgiveness. A book that has REALLY helped me is Total Forgiveness by RT Kendall
http://www.amazon.com/Total-Forgiveness-R-T-Kendall/dp/0884198898

You liked my other book recommendation (Square Foot Gardening) and I think you will really like this one too!! :)

MANY blessings to you!!

Lisa in Texas = ) said...

Shereen~
So great to see that you are back to blogging! We have missed you. I am glad that you guys are doing well and getting settled in your new place. Would you mind sharing the general area or state that you and your family moved to?
Have a Happy Sabbath,

Lisa in Texas = )

Milehimama said...

Hi Shereen! Glad everything is going well for you. I just happened to check your blog on a lark and I'm so glad I did!

May God bless you and keep you.

Nitza said...

Hi Shereen
I too am glad your back online. I had ask Angelica and Ada back in Fl
if they had any news of you. I too moved from Fl.Iam in PA amongst the Amish.Its very cold for me, but I figure God has brought us here He'll teach us the way. My husband is still in Fl but God willing will be here soon.God bless you.So glad to have you back.
Nitza

Penny said...

Oh, if you could have seen my smile when I checked for a new post and YES!, there was one!!
I've missed you and I am so happy to hear a good report.

Our family has been longing to go back to North Idaho...we miss our wilderness home there. So you KNOW we are really looking forward to pictures. :) We still check the weather there and have said "I wonder how they're doing. I wonder what they think of it!"

Call me or email when you can, okay?

Love and prayers,
Penny

Anonymous said...

So nice to catch up with how things are going for you. I thought of you recently. Someone was asking me about court reporting and I thought of you as I was telling them about the work I once did. :-) I sure don't miss that!

What ND are you seeing now?

So wonderful to read of the Lord working in your life. I always enjoy your blog.

Praising Him,
Kim
www.homeschoolblogger.com/blessed2bamommy

Charree said...

Hey Shereen,

I am glad to see that you are okay. I hope that all is well with you and yours!
~Charree

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